Dear Friends,
I've never considered myself particularly
good at, or particularly fond of, saying goodbye. Even when once a close
friend explained to me that "goodbye" simply means "God
be with you," I have still struggled with the emotions that surround
that simple, little word. At many points in my life I have shied away
from saying goodbye, instead opting for the more palatable "see
you later" or "until next time." At times I have thought
that if I didn't acknowledge a real goodbye that it wouldn't actually
happen. But the reality, of course, is that goodbyes happen all the time,
whether we acknowledge them or not. And as I have lived and loved I have
found that avoiding goodbyes only leaves me feeling incomplete, unfulfilled,
and even unprepared to move into the next chapter of my life. Saying
a proper, intentional goodbye honors any relationship, and enables a
variety of blessings to be acknowledged and savored.
In several conversations over the past few weeks I have mentioned how
thankful I am that saying goodbye to Church of the Pilgrimage has been
difficult. The fact that it hurts to say goodbye says a good deal about
the meaning and beauty of the relationship. In recent worship services
I have had the chance to acknowledge some of this meaning and beauty.
It started with Confirmation Sunday and the uplifting of the many gifts
and talents of our confirmands. It continued into the joyful celebration
of our youth and Christian education programs on Church School Sunday.
It moved into two weeks ago when Gary and I recessed down the center
aisle, for what may well be the last time as co-leaders of worship. And
it continued into last Sunday, when I and all of us had the opportunity
to express gratitude for the many gifts of our musical program. While
appreciating the full weight of these moments has not been easy, it has
been so worth it.
And that's the way I feel about these last three years. They have not
always been easy, but they have been so worth it. I have loved standing
before you as your minister. I am so proud of the ways we have grown
together - from how we talk to each other, to the things we do with and
for each other, to the ways we worship God together. We have shared a
spiritual hunger, and it has been so wonderful to stretch and grow and
nourish each other along the way. What a privilege it has been to walk
with you!
Over the month of July I will continue to say goodbye to you in personal
ways, and offer to you my sincere appreciation for the many ways you
have supported me during our time together... I don't pretend to know
what the future will hold. But no matter what happens, please know that
I love you and the spirit of God that resides inside each of you. You
have been such a blessing to me, and you will ever remain in my heart.
Good bye until we meet again,